Written by Anonymous
Do you ever feel alone working as a Nanny? Do you ever feel completely isolated? Have you ever felt invisible? Have you ever felt like you are somewhere but you are not really there?
Working with a High Profile Family sometimes feels like this. Yes, I know, you have all read the articles about Nannies making lots and lots of money, traveling on private jets, wearing mini skirts and high heels, but working for High Net Worth Families isn’t always as glamorous as the rest of the world wants you to believe.
Do Nannies who work with HNW families receive a six figure salary? Most likely, but what they are required to deal with on a daily basis is not your average 9 -5 job. Don’t get me wrong, I love my job but there are so many misconceptions about what this kind of work entails. HNW Nannies work very long days, they often work nights. We often work rota shifts, i.e 4 days on and 4 days off. This often means there is another Nanny who works on opposite shifts as you, and hopefully is on the same page with regards to routine, consistency and approaches. We deal with the ever changing dynamics of the family we work with and most likely the ever changing dynamics of a whole team of outside contractors (security, cooks, housekeepers, drivers, etc). We take care of our charges, their schedules, their diets and their playdates. I have in the past also been responsible for Doctor visits, school choices, Parent Teacher Conferences, clothes shopping, vacations, immunizations and a whole lot more. When I say I was responsible for, I mean the parents were not involved.
Working as a Nanny is isolating and lonely at the best of times, if we don’t make the effort to meet others, we spend our entire day talking to our charges. This is all fine and dandy but we need some adult interactions in our lives. Working with a HNW Family is isolating and lonely times 100, even if you do befriend another Nanny or any adult, you cannot talk about your job so the conversation becomes very stiff and one sided. If you do work with a team you are still not allowed to speak to others about your job, which can make for a very interesting conversation.
Not only is it lonely and isolating, I also feel that it can make you feel invisible, as if you are living a life through a foggy pane of glass. Maybe not all other Nannies and Mannies in my position feel this way, it would be interesting to hear how other HNW Nannies/Mannies feel about this.
I have been so invisible that I have entered foreign countries and my passport hasn’t been stamped, I have been to remote and beautiful locations and nobody has known that I have been there, I have attended very important events but my name is not on the guest list. Why? Because as a Nanny to HNW Families, I am invisible. I am here to help make my charges’ lives run smoothly, I am here to ensure that the children are seen at their best, I am here to support, plan, deliver the best possible care to my charges and their extended family.
- met Presidents of nations? Yes
- had dinner with Princes and Princesses and other foreign dignitaries? Yes
- stayed in celebrities’ homes? Yes
- been invited to celebrities’ homes to ring in the New Year? Yes
- been interviewed for articles by magazines? Yes. Have I conducted such interviews in the bathroom of my hotel room because my charges were sleeping in my bed in my room? Yes ( sounds glamorous, right??)
Can I discuss this information with anyone? No, because as the Nanny of HNW Families you are not allowed to discuss what happens within the household. You are bound to strict confidentiality rules, you are being paid to respect the privacy of your clients. I truly believe this is for the best, but it is very difficult to form relationships.
So, if you are applying for a position working with a HNW Family, keep in mind the following:
- You will be compensated well (in most cases)
- You will have to give up your personal life (in most cases)
- The more you are paid, the more you will have to deal with
- You will be exposed to exciting experiences you would never have imagined you would be part of (flying in helicopters and private jets, having breakfast in one state, lunch in another and dinner in yet another, etc. etc.)
- You will be expected to do more than childcare (in most cases)
- Your compensation covers the family’s need for privacy and confidentiality, please respect this
- Most HNW Families are very formal, so the transition may not be an easy one
My advice to anyone entering the HNW world is:
- Be organized
- Be prepared for anything
- Don’t take things personally, you need to be thick skinned!
- Be assertive
- Have FUN!