Nanny burnout, it is real!

Tips and Advice

As I lay in bed thinking “WTF has gotten into me?” I realize I know exactly what has gotten into me!

I am sick in bed, have been here since Friday when I returned from my shift early, two days early in fact, I am NEVER sick. The little one had a cold so I presumed I got what little one had. I started feeling unwell on Wednesday but pushed through, then felt really bad on Thursday and by Friday morning I was at the doctor’s office.

Anyway, I don’t have what little one had I am burnt out and my body is telling me to look after it. I have been working too much and  have also been studying as well as trying to have a life and I guess my body has said “Listen here you DUMMY, if you don’t stop I will make you stop!”

We don’t talk about Nanny burnout often enough, we don’t talk about how we as caregivers should look after ourselves, treat ourselves with respect, we don’t talk about how we should allow ourselves to heal, to rest and regenerate. As caregivers we often put the children’s feelings and needs before ours, we give all we have to help our Nanny Family and then are spent and have nothing more to give.

So, what are we going to do about it? I know I will be re visiting how I take care of myself, I know that I am going to try and change things around and I AM going to take time for ME.

Talking to Nanny Families about our own self care is not easy but it is a conversation that needs to take place, I read and hear about nannies who are burnt out all the time, I have been here before, it has happened to me and it will happen again, because I care, because we care. I know that as you are reading this, you are thinking, sure, talk is easy but until we do something about it we will continue to run into this issue.


I think that the first place to start is setting healthy boundaries, this is easier said than done especially if you are a live in Nanny. I will take this time to think about ways I can set some boundaries, I will find ways to help me deal with every day challenges.

What are your suggestions? How do you set healthy boundaries with Nanny Families? How do you cope with Nanny Burnout? I would love to read your ideas and maybe incorporating them in my daily life.


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    October 18, 2016 at 3:47 pm

    i recently suffered from nanny burnout. The key is to recognize this, also its important for nannies to recognize their self worth and also if the family is not a good fit. When I realized inwas not the nanny for that family I dediced to present my resignation letter. I also think it’s important for all of us to have 3 to 6 or praferaby 12 months of emergency funds, 8if you decide to quit your job and don’t have another one in place. I dediced to to ocasional babysting and cutting back my hours to just working 15 hrs a week. Also changing environments helps, doing a defferent job other thank nanny or still working with but in a different setting. And most definelty take care of your self, massages, acupuncture,and eating healthy.

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    Funny Nanny
    October 18, 2016 at 3:58 pm

    Thank you so much Ali, this is all great advice.

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    October 19, 2016 at 8:39 am

    I am currently with a family that I have worked with for a year and half now. Originally it was just the 3 year old (now 4) and the 2 year old. However a month into the job I was told nanny family was expecting their third child. He is now 9 months old. I fear that I have started to experience complete nanny burnout this year and it does not help that we are not aloud to really go anywhere. Parents are not comfortable with driving ever since third baby was born. I am full time and work Monday through Friday. Is there any advice you could give about how to combat the isolation and boredom for the kids. I am very big on doing crafts and limited tv time. Also the children are outside a lot. However the winter months are coming. Also my nanny family will be moving this coming May so I do not think it’s necessary to leave the job just yet since I agreed to kind of stick it out. So any advice on how to make the last few months less stressful would be great.

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      Funny Nanny
      October 19, 2016 at 10:15 am

      I am so sorry you are feeling the effects of nanny Burn Out, I know how it feels. I think that living/working in isolation is very dangerous, not only for you but for the children too. Is there any way you can convince the parents to allow you one outing per week? I will post your question about isolation and boredom to the Facebook group, if you are not on Facebook let me know and I will send you a message with some ideas. Are there any other nannies in the area that could maybe come to you? Is there a library/park you could go to to meet others? Are there any classes, playgroups in the area? Remember to look after YOU, you are being honorable by sticking to what you said you would do but if you are not happy you should talk to the family and let them know how you feel. Make a decision after you have spoken to them. I wish you all the best, please keep me posted!

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